I saw a man at The Party who smiled at the waitress across the bar and she came straight round to take an order from him.
He turned and smiled at the bartender who received the order. The bartender gave him a salute and sent the drink back pronto, perfectly stirred.
The waitress walked away smiling.
I watched the man as he worked the room, and observed how it didn't take long until the room started to work around him. People were approaching him, his orders were taken first and he was never without an admirer waiting in the wings. He wasn't classically handsome and, while well-groomed, wasn't opulently clothed. What was this invisible pull?
I approached him and extended my hand. He smiled as he shook it and I could feel myself smiling back at him, though I wasn't sure why.
I asked him why he was always smiling and he told me this:
I was an angry teenager. I had the entire CURE back catalogue and I was certain my parents were put on this earth to destroy me. I swore, I smoked, I stole, I drank, I lied. Generally, I was quite capable of rubbing people the wrong way. But if ever I found myself between a rock and a hard place, I knew that by some magic I could get out.
I never relied on this magic because I don’t deem magic to be terribly reliable, so every time I found myself in trouble I would go through the same motions of high anxiety and tension, and yet somehow find a way out.
It took years until I realised what this “magic” was - and it was a magic available to every global citizen should he choose to use it – it was charm.
Charm is different from beauty. Beauty is babied. It is treated preciously – a delicate display that is cradled, and handled with care. Charm is respected. Charm is an active force – not a passive recipient of adoration. Charm is a weapon used to bow down those who stand in your way.
Charm is all you need – that is when the magic happens. So I tried to break down this charm thing: what exactly is it that bestows the charm-wielder with control? It’s like having an operating manual of everyone you meet and I’m still trying to figure it out.
But the one ingredient I know that is certainly one of the most potent, the most fail-proof is the smile.
A genuine smile really gets you a long way towards whatever you want. A smile can mesmerise – like hypnosis, and that is the start of charm.
He turned and smiled at the bartender who received the order. The bartender gave him a salute and sent the drink back pronto, perfectly stirred.
The waitress walked away smiling.
I watched the man as he worked the room, and observed how it didn't take long until the room started to work around him. People were approaching him, his orders were taken first and he was never without an admirer waiting in the wings. He wasn't classically handsome and, while well-groomed, wasn't opulently clothed. What was this invisible pull?I approached him and extended my hand. He smiled as he shook it and I could feel myself smiling back at him, though I wasn't sure why.
I asked him why he was always smiling and he told me this:
I was an angry teenager. I had the entire CURE back catalogue and I was certain my parents were put on this earth to destroy me. I swore, I smoked, I stole, I drank, I lied. Generally, I was quite capable of rubbing people the wrong way. But if ever I found myself between a rock and a hard place, I knew that by some magic I could get out.
I never relied on this magic because I don’t deem magic to be terribly reliable, so every time I found myself in trouble I would go through the same motions of high anxiety and tension, and yet somehow find a way out.
It took years until I realised what this “magic” was - and it was a magic available to every global citizen should he choose to use it – it was charm.
Charm is different from beauty. Beauty is babied. It is treated preciously – a delicate display that is cradled, and handled with care. Charm is respected. Charm is an active force – not a passive recipient of adoration. Charm is a weapon used to bow down those who stand in your way.
Charm is all you need – that is when the magic happens. So I tried to break down this charm thing: what exactly is it that bestows the charm-wielder with control? It’s like having an operating manual of everyone you meet and I’m still trying to figure it out.
But the one ingredient I know that is certainly one of the most potent, the most fail-proof is the smile.
A genuine smile really gets you a long way towards whatever you want. A smile can mesmerise – like hypnosis, and that is the start of charm.
The true beauty of the smile is it's contagiousness. It's a great gift to make others feel good about themselves and the PARTY!
ReplyDeleterumours have it that you can now DRIVE to the party !? :D
ReplyDelete*throws charming smile*